There are three ways to break with our old and bad deals: why not try breaking one of the hundreds or thousands of deals you have right now? Maybe you`re thinking you`re not good at painting – take out the watercolors and have fun creating something. By following the step-by-step process, you can gradually change things for the better. The forgiveness that connects Don Miguel to consciousness refers to the forgiveness of our past and ongoing failures against the agreements we still have. It is also forgiveness for letting ourselves and our fellow human beings suffer because of our accepted illusions. Also, forgiveness for the suffering that others produce because of their dreams. Doing your best doesn`t mean doing your best physically. This means doing your best individually, which can vary depending on the situation and your current situation. One way to do your best is to incorporate the previous three chords into your daily life. By doing this, you can avoid feelings of regret and accept that people are doing their best at every moment. You`ll come to appreciate the action itself, rather than just enjoying the rewards associated with the actions. Similarly, Don Miguel suggests that we should work hard because it makes us happy and not an external motivation.
Don Miguel gives an example of salaries. If the main motivation in our work is money, we will never do our best. In addition, we will be stuck in well-paying jobs but without fulfillment or joy. Due to the lack of fulfillment in their work, these people then spend their weekends partying, drinking, and doing other things that harm their lives. Be impeccable in my own words, don`t take things personally, don`t make assumptions and always do my best, these four promises are hard to keep, but once I became aware of these four promises, things changed in a positive direction. ”The Four Chords” not only gave me the four chords with which I made small positive changes in my life, but the book also helped me understand the process of ”domestication” and how that ”domestication” shaped my belief systems. The fourth agreement allows readers to get a better overview of the progress made in achieving their life goals. This agreement includes the integration of the first three chords into everyday life and also the exhaustion of one`s own potential. [8] It is a question of doing one`s best individually, which is different from the different situations and circumstances that the individual may encounter. Ruiz believes that if you avoid self-judgment and do your best in every given moment, you will be able to avoid remorse. [10] By incorporating the first three chords and giving the best of himself in all facets of life, the individual will be able to live a life without grief or self-irony. [10] Impeccable means ”sinless” and a sin is something you do or believe that goes against yourself.
This means not speaking against yourself, for yourself or for others. This means not rejecting oneself. To be impeccable is to take responsibility, not to participate in the ”game of guilt”. For the word, the rules of ”action-reaction” apply. What you bring out energetically will come back to you. The correct use of the word creates the right use of energy to express love and gratitude, perpetuates the same in the universe. The reverse is also true. Perfection begins at home. Be impeccable with yourself and this will be reflected in your life and relationships with others. This agreement can help change thousands of other agreements, especially those that create fear instead of love. Making assumptions and taking things personally (agreements two and three) go hand in hand and lead to gossip, conflict and suffering.
Based on all these ideas, Don Miguel presented four clear messages to remember that should be implemented. Except that we still have all these old agreements lying around. We must fight our way and reject them. How can we dismantle those old agreements that have created unnecessary suffering in our lives? How do we free ourselves from the old agreements? I really liked The Four Chords, which I often recommend to people who aren`t fans of self-improvement books that they find too off: if it were to be a book to read, it would be this one. Easy to understand, straight to the point. Don Miguel Ruiz addresses the law of attraction, the idea that language is creative, the need to be authentic, to control our emotions and to learn to forgive to achieve happiness. It`s quite complete! In ”The Four Agreements,” the author suggests following four key principles to eliminate suffering from our human experience and turn it into bliss. As we grew up, we unconsciously made a number of deals (much like the four deals) with ourselves. These agreements guide our behavior – they act as an internal compass through which we decide what to do and what not to do. But we never CHOSE these agreements. This book presents us with four agreements that we should make with ourselves in order to live a good life. It won`t be easy to replace our old agreements with these new four, but it can be a significant personal change you can make.
These chains are developed from an early age. We are born into social norms that dictate the dreams we may have in life. The collective dream of the planet influences our individual dreams. This collective dream is taught to us by our parents, our schools, our religions and our politicians. Through this training, we learn to behave ”correctly”, what we must believe and the difference between good and evil. Our acceptance of these social agreements should be called our domestication. When we tried to rebel in childhood or adolescence, we were punished and oppressed by more powerful parents and teachers. Just like an animal, we were rewarded for obeying these more powerful individuals. Afterwards, we all surrendered and decided to follow the collective dream and not our individual dreams.
However, as we get older, we no longer need a more powerful person to domesticate and control us. These ideas are constructed in such a way that we domesticate ourselves. Don Miguel suggests that we can free ourselves from this structure and make new deals for ourselves. These are the four agreements. Today`s world is full of suffering and cruelty. From birth, we are trained to accept the rules of society as they are, but accepting these rules prevents us from becoming ourselves. But there is another way of life. If we replace the old agreements with four new simple agreements, we can free ourselves from the old rules and find peace and happiness. These agreements are: 1) Use your words impeccably.
2) Don`t take anything personally. 3) Don`t make assumptions. 4) Always do your best. If we want a life of joy, we must break those harmful agreements that promote suffering and failure. But how? We feel powerless because creating and keeping all these negative agreements has sucked up our personal power. .
